happily ever after horror movie

Tomorrow will be one week since my surgery, a milestone I'm celebrating early.  There are hours I'm engaged in work, school assignments, reading.  And there are hours I'm gritting my teeth, counting down each quarter hour as I ride the pain and tame my imagination about what's going on under the splint.  I stopped taking pain meds after Saturday, and the days have been doable, but the nights are like some terrible horror movie.

Robert went through a similar surgery when the tendon on the side of his ankle snapped.  I'm not sure what the name of that tendon is, so let's just call it hellraiser.  Though our stories are similar, Robert had the extra challenge of discovering there wasn't a groove to hold hellraiser once it was stitched back together.  So he went from splint to a hard cast, because they had to grind out a new groove in his ankle bone to hold hellraiser.  So yes, we've both had haywire tendon surgery stories, and he knows what I'm going through, but his was on a whole different level.

Each time I share a new pain with him, he's so nonchalant, like he's describing how a server works. 

There's the fire-hot glass pain in the bottom of the heel (his response - "oh that's just blood pooling").  

There's the gnawing on the back of my heel with razor teeth pain (his response - "just your stitches rubbing on the splint").  

There's the feeling of giant spasms in the calf area, which feels like being bitch-smacked by a fish.  You know the feeling when you're fishing and the fish comes out of the water and it's flopping everywhere and it smacks into you with all its spiny glory - that feeling but on the inside.  When I told Robert this, he said, "well that's probably just your tendon coming back together."  

The squeezing python pain?  "Oh, you just aren't elevating it enough. That's the swelling against the splint."  Like my leg is literally a sausage bursting from its casing.  

Last night there was a new sensation.  I told Robert it was feeling itchy in there too.  Having some experience with my disgusted looks, he was even more succinct than ever.  "Dead skin."  And I was like, "Dead skin what?!?"  He started to explain, "Well your leg isn't getting any air."  But I was done.  No more.  I've learned my lesson.  It's better to think there's a menagerie of creepy creatures having a nightmare party down there.

A couple big things happened yesterday that instantly lifted my mood and Robert's too.  First, I had a shower after not showering since last Tuesday.  Robert and I plotted for days the best way to do this.  And really, the best way ended up being what was going to be the most entertaining for Robert and neighbors.  That's how you know you're making a sound decision.

Robert waited until all of our neighbors were out taking walks and as a bonus, a city worker was digging up and replacing the old gas line in our yard.  Then he found the most obnoxious spray setting on our garden hose, hauled me out of the house, plopped me on a chair where I could be viewed by our entire neighborhood, wrapped up the injured leg in multiple plastic bags, and proceeded to cackle maniacally as he Jackson Pollocked me with soap and the sprayer.

The good news is I can now tolerate being around myself and we've got a good plan for the next shower.  The only difference is that we're going to do it in the dead of night.

And I also have something to do during the long hours - plotting vengeance.  Robert always says he loves my creativity.  So I'm sure whatever I cook up for him will be something he'll enjoy.  

I knew Robert was going to pick up the girls from their little vacation at their doggie daycare, but I was so exhausted after the shower I went to bed for a while.  The next thing I know there's golden retriever flying at me.  Robert said Josie flew past him when he got home and opened the door.  She went straight for me.

I'm the lump to the left. 😁

I am extremely fortunate to have a husband who is so incredibly nurturing and such a lover (he helped me take off my nail polish for the surgery and even found a walker like thing for the toilet so I could I use the bathroom independently).  But I also have this dog who went from this happy, goofy sweetheart who made it clear from the beginning that she was a baby who needed our love and protection.  Never once did she show signs of being protective or nurturing like one of our past dogs, Rose.  Even as a baby, Rose made it clear that she was there to take care of us and keep us in line.  

Suddenly, with this injury, Josie has become a total nurturer.  She has glued herself to me since she's been home and has been so incredibly gentle with my giant boo boo.  We were going to try to keep her out of the bed, but she made it very clear that wasn't happening.  I told Robert if she just happens to land on me the wrong way, we'll have one hell of a story for the emergency room.

So here I type in bed, and her butt floof is all up in my laptop as it should be.  

Margo is a different story.  She got up this morning and gave us some hardcore stares.  So Robert finally surrendered and took her to work where she can be with her beloved J and do her important shop dog duties.  I love her to infinity, but she has her own agenda!

Well, I've got some important cuddling with my Jo Pie to do next.  The most important thing on the list today.

Wild Geese/Dear Writer

Some book love:

Wild Geese by Mary Oliver

"Adults can change their circumstances; children cannot. Children are powerless, and in difficult situations they are the victims of every sorrow and mischance and rage around them, for children feel all of these things but without any of the ability that adults have to change them. Whatever can take a child beyond such circumstances, therefore, is an alleviation and a blessing...the beauty and the mystery of the world, out in the fields or deep inside books can re-dignify the worst-stung heart."

Dear Writer by Maggie Smith

Favorite moments:

"When I say that attention is a form of love, I'm also saying that attention is about devotion and commitment. 'Paying attention' is a metaphor in itself: attention a form of currency we pay to things we value."

On Titles and Epigraphs was the most helpful chapter. "When we 'try on' a title - for a poem, an essay, or even a book - we can ask ourselves: What does the reader need to know early on or at the outset? What information or frame of reference could the title provide up front so that the piece of writing can begin unencumbered by exposition? Are there details or explanation that could be moved into the title, so that the piece's load is a little lighter?"

"As you try on titles and consider whether to use - or remove - epigraphs, think about the welcome mat you're laying out. Think about how you've invited the reader inside and prepared them for what's going to happen next. Is the reader overburden or underprepared? Or do they have everything they need?"

I'll never use this one, as I'm constantly editing and shaping as I write and think, but this is the best way I've heard it explained: "Don't worry too much about the form as you get the raw material down; that would be like making a container at the same time as trying to fill it."

The second most helpful chapter for me was Generative Writing Activity: Line, Sentence, and Stanza. "Whether the line is enjambed or end-stopped, the word at the end of each line is emphasized. Imagine a little spotlight trained on the last word of each line in your poem. Do you need a spotlight on his, and, or the? Or would you rather shine it on words with some importance, some metaphorical weight in the poem? Don't waste a spotlight."

I thought her signature at the end of some chapters was a little much and weird, but her advice was sound. I bought the book only a few minutes after opening my library copy because I knew I was going to want to pick it up again and again. So I'll get over the fact that she's a little full of herself. I'm excited to look through her poetry books and see if I've missed any and maybe also reread them.

toes above nose

I'm officially on the the mend now.  I was very fortunate to get an appointment with the surgeon on Monday.  He scheduled my surgery for Wednesday, and I was in and out in just a few hours.  I'm on bed rest until the end of September, which means I'm typing while laying down.  But I'm two days into it, and I'm feeling hopeful.  Only 9 months and I'll back on the court playing tennis.  The doctor has a detailed plan for the next nine months, and from what I heard I may be putting some weight on the leg by Halloween.  I'm ready to get this plan going!

Robert has been taking good care of me, and his mom has even come over when he's gone in case I need anything.  I can't quite get around on my own yet, but I'm so close.  

One of my three classes this fall has a group discussion component.  When we were trying to figure out a time to meet this week, I mentioned my surgery on Wednesday and asked for Tuesday, the day before, or for Sunday.  The surgeon told me once the nerve block wears off, even with pain medication, there will be a couple days of pain.  Well, in less than 24 hours, my group all came together and decided to meet on Tuesday.  So, I'm still caught up on my assignments.  So much to be grateful for.  

The only thing that's kinda rotten is that my girls are in doggy daycare right now.  Prior to the surgery, Josie would still very carefully get in bed with us at night.  Right around the time I was ready to fall asleep, she would get down, which is what she usually does.  But for the week prior to my surgery, I would wake up and she would be back in bed with us, snuggled as close to me as she could get!  We couldn't figure out what was going on.  Then one night, Margo woke up Robert because she needed to go out.  While he was waiting on Margo, I gave a yelp of pain in my sleep.  He said Josie didn't even think twice.  She gracefully and soundlessly jumped up on the bed and was by my side in seconds.  

This is the same dog who acts like a whirly dervish, the first dog we've had who is a complete baby and wants to be treated as such.  She is also 100% Robert's dog.  I can't even begin to tell you how loved I feel right now.  But her need to make sure I'm ok is why she's out of the house for a few days.  Even though I'm on bed rest (toes above nose) for two weeks, I'll be turning some kind of magical corner around Monday.  And then we can figure out how Josie and I can snuggle without her plastering herself to my booboo.

Though it doesn't sound like much of a difference, a boot and a splint wrapped in what feels like the entire stock of guaze at any given Walgreens is a pretty mighty difference.  I'm a fairly strong person, but it feels like I have a damn anchor made of cement down there.  It's also unwieldy and both Robert and I are terrified of it.  I didn't have fond feelings for the boot, but I will be happy to see it again in two weeks!

helpful book

This is the book I can't stop talking about.  It's been so incredibly helpful!

I am not sure how this book ended up on my to-read list. Usually I add the name of whoever recommended it in my private notes, but there's nothing there. I almost didn't read it, because I would never call myself a perfectionist, and no one has ever called me one with any seriousness.

But here I am with this book that I know is already changing my life. I saw so much of myself in this book it was tough to read at times. I had to stop after each moment of connection and take the time to process it. I have even found myself using the information from the book to help me move forward from a place of anxiety and attacking myself. I think it's within my power to figure out ways to make all the things that define me (good or bad, perfectionism or not) a little bit more adaptive than maladaptive.

Powerful moments for me:

Pg. 27: Adaptive vs. maladaptive perfectionism. Interestingly enough, I had a doctor's appointment and the doctor used the terms to describe a function of the body. Maybe others have heard of this, but it was news to me. I feel like this is something concrete that I can think about to help me use behaviors in a positive way.

Pg. 29: "Trying to get rid of your perfectionism (or for me, my need to be in control) is like trying to get rid of the wind by whacking it with a broom. Perfectionism is too powerful for an eradication approach. When you try to get rid of your perfectionism, all you're doing is hemorrhaging energy at the opportunity cost of attending to your wellness."

Pg. 84: "Each type of perfectionist has their own way of expressing the dynamics inherent in maladaptive perfectionism, but regardless of context, the raw formula is the same: you get separated from your self-worth, and you think restoring your worth hinges on an external outcome. You start trying to compensate for something you don't need to compensate for. You start trying to earn something that already belongs to you." This rings true. It still almost bowls me over reading it a third, fifth, twelfth time.

Pg. 86: "Relying on a strategy of superficial control instead of accessing your power is tantamount to moving a car by pushing it from the bumper instead of getting inside and driving it." This is so much of my life, it would be funny if it didn't hurt like the dickens. I have superficial control lying all over my house, in my mind, everywhere.

Pg. 106: "Everything a child who does not feel loved does is done to answer this question am I worth loving yet? The child asks some version of that question indefinitely, but not forever. When the answer to the question continues to be perceived as "No," the message is internalized...An invisible switch is flipped. In the child's unconscious mind, freedom to be who they are is no longer an option. It's too unsafe and two destabilizing. With freedom off the table, two choices remain. The first choice is performance. They choose to play the part of someone who is worthy and hope to God no one finds out they're pretending. The second choice is destruction. They choose to destroy themselves with the mentality of "If no one else cares about me, why should I?" To read something like this in a book is such a hopeful, powerful thing. 

Lastly, Pg. 170: "Perfectionists waste so much energy trying to turn their disappointment into something else. We keep asking, "How can I get rid of my disappointment?" The better question is "What else do I also feel?"

While reading this I realized that one of the tools I use while creating art is a tiny part of me giving myself permission to let go. I use this tool as a way to surrender some of that control I constantly feel like I need to have. I can only hope that by using this tool I'm able to let go a little more with every finished piece.

baby, let's go, boot scootin'

I picked up this book from the library on Friday, and it's clearly meant to be (The Pivot Year by Brianna Wiest)

 

I ruptured my right achilles tendon and am a sad grab bag of emotions right now.  I know that with my need for exercise and a lot of it, I have a target on my back for injuries.  But the funny thing is I've been working like hell to strengthen my pelvic floor and core even more, up from an hour a week to 2 1/2 hours a week since my trips to Mayo.  I haven't reduced my tennis any either.  I've actually been playing like there's music inside me.  I don't think I've gotten any better, but it's more and more giving me a place to go to heal.  And then it breaks me.  It's just an injury, but I've got to figure out a new place to sort out my thoughts and feelings.  I don't want this blog to turn into all the rocky bits I've had going on.  I try to get to a positive place or find the moments of gratitude before sharing too much.  And just that process of looking for the blooms in the thorns has given me the strength to work through each challenge.  The growth and healing during and after the loss of my library job, learning how to run a business that I've never had any experience with (a blessing cloaked in a challenge), working through my G.I. issues with the help of so many and getting on a healing path.  

But occasionally there are things in life that are harder to process and work through, things we add to our load of unsolvables that we carry in one large knapsack that can never be put down.  I lost someone close to me, someone I didn't expect to.  It happened late last spring, and the pain of it has been all-encompassing.  I know I am strong and can grow from it, but I'm still in that place where I wake up most days and relive the loss.  I spend these days fighting to not let it destroy me.  Exercise, especially tennis, is where I go to ruminate, heal, and rage until I'm exhausted.  This injury has left me particularly vulnerable.  At this point I can't see myself ever being in a good place where I can write about this loss with any kind of gratitude or positivity.  But it's just as much a part of me as my breath, and it will shape who I am going forward, so it's time to say it out loud and not be upset at myself for not being able to scrounge up any kind of positivity or peace for it.    

When my tendon ruptured I was working through nerves because I was playing with new people.  We were all joking, having a good time, but I hadn't found my groove thing yet.  I took one step back to receive a serve, and the tendon exploded and I went down.  Even during the initial shock of pain, I knew it was bad.  I couldn't put any weight on it, and these incredible strangers helped Robert carry me off the court and to the car.  I can't even begin to tell you how mortified I was.  Even as I remembered seeing another player go down several years ago much the same way with a torn ACL, and how everyone jumped in to help her, I couldn't get past the embarrassment.  

I can already find the gratitude for this latest challenge though.  There is much to be grateful for.  As Robert was reaching out to others for help - he has an athletic trainer friend who knew which ER we should go to and another friend whose sister owns a medical supply store, I was thinking holy hell, I don't have a single person in my life to say, "this horrible thing happened, and I'm completely wrecked by it."  And just as fast as that emotion flickered through me, there was this relief that I did not have to share this ridiculously embarrassing thing with anyone, Robert being the exception of course.  He's the one person in my life who continues to be there for me.  He's seen it all.  The good moments.  The ugly.  The stuff we know we're going to laugh about once we figure out how.  

While I was at the ER I asked one of the nurses whether I did anything to create this injury.  I went through the stretches I did, the tennis I played the day before, everything.  It was a relief to hear her tell me that sometimes this kind of thing just happens.  One thing I've realized recently thanks to a special book is that I'm so ready to blame myself for everything because it means that it's still within my control if I'm the one who caused it.  But it also completely depletes me when I tear myself down.  So I was really proud of myself for trying to get ahead of this problem by asking her.  

I'm twenty four hours into this situation and now I'm ready to process it rationally and develop a plan.  Really, it's many plans.  But the first thing I'm going to do is not let the embarrassment and worry eat me up.  So I'm owning up to the fact that I did not go down in a blaze of glory.  I went down just backing up to receive a serve that had a little more sauce on it than I was expecting (something we do all the time in tennis).  I played the day before, worked through my current roadblocks, ate what I was supposed to the morning of, stretched everything, and walked on the court ready.  Sometimes shitty things just happen.  

I am doing the boot and scoot this week, meeting with the same doctor who did Robert's ankle surgery next Monday (he's out of town or I would be in sooner), and doing the surgery as soon as he assesses the injury.  And then it's 6-12 months recovery.  Not too bad, right?  There are already two things that I think are absolutely hilarious.  The tournament I was playing in was called The Bracket of Death because it's a condensed into one day.  While carrying me to the car on my lawn chair throne, Robert told me I didn't have to take the name literally.  Second, the first song that was playing at the beginning of the tournament was Boot Scootin' Boogie.  The universe was trying to warn me!  I try to pay attention for signs from the universe, but they're usually not sung by Brooks & Dunn!

I can feel the injury like a hot, evil thing lurking in the boot, but it's not painful if I leave it alone.  Other than my pride, the thing that hurts most is my back, which hurts with every breath.  I am thinking I must have gone down hard and the scooter has been kind a jerk to my back (the dogs think it's a jerk too).  But the scooter has a cute basket, and it has given me mobility, so I'm not going to talk too much shit about it.  I also have an extra day thanks to the holiday to get used to this new reality and become a human again, ready for life and work again.  

Try Your Best

We've had a lot of construction around my neighborhood this summer.  A bridge was replaced, yards and roads have been ripped up to replace old pipes, and we have three houses at the end of our street that have been torn down and are in various stages of rebuilding.  There have been times I've needed help just getting off my street or I've been blocked and needed to wait.  Yesterday we went for a walk and discovered that Josie's favorite street to do her business is being torn up.  Robert and I jokingly refer to this street as "The Beloved Poop Fields of El Monte," because Josie has such a fondness for pooping there.  I've seen her go poo just minutes before walking El Monte and if we turn on El Monte, she poos again.

So yesterday we needed to go a bit further, I was already late, Josie was giving me crap for missing her street, and we came across this sign.

As we passed Josie's beloved street again, she got as close to it as she could and did her business.  That was the best she could do.  This is likely some kind of divine message from the universe.

Offering

I can't even begin to tell you how this collage came to be.  For the longest time I only made planned art.  If a planned piece took me somewhere unmapped, I was not resistant.  But I do like a plan!  The past couple years I have been winging it sometimes.  Even when I'm winging it, a plan often forms in the process of picking out the papers, thread, or fabric.

When I sat down with the papers for this collage I only knew I craved yellow.  Eventually a hand grew in the piece, and after I got used to it being there, I moved it, kept moving it, kept asking what it wanted to be.  I was so focused on the hand fluttering around the canvas, I was ignoring what it was trying to give me.

20 Years

Today it's officially 20 years of shenanigans, adventures, ruffled feathers, goofiness, comfort, squishes, front porch sitting, and love.  We haven't been able to count all the stars or drive any kind of vehicle, Buicks included, to the moon.  So our love keeps going like one never-ending fruit rollup.

We can't say that every minute of our relationship has been perfect.  We are opposites in a lot of ways, which has made things very interesting.  Robert is a lover who wants everyone in his life to always be happy.  If someone isn't happy, it becomes his number one priority to figure out what he can do to help change that.  If I think someone isn't happy or processing big feelings I'm like peace out!  Process that shit and get back to me when you're ready.

One of the things we've worked so hard on in our relationship is to find a balance between these two extremes.  I like space when I'm processing or chewing on things.  Robert likes kumbaya time when he's processing or chewing on things.  If there's one thing we've learned these past twenty years it's how to find a bridge between space and kumbaya time and also understand each other's perspective better.  

There have been times he's given me my space and I've found myself seeking his comfort, and I know there have been times I've been very smushy and loving, and he's wanting that space.  Relationships are work!  And so much communication! 

Robert is the most nurturing soul I've met.  He is unflappable, thoughtful, brilliant, and goofy.  I am like a shrieking pterodactyl of whatever feeling I'm feeling the most.  When I first met him I both fell in love with him and also at the same time, wanted to be more like him.  He's definitely made me a better person and is there for me 100% during the messy parts of my evolution.  I can't speak for him, but over the years his inner shrieking pterodactyl side has definitely been creeping out.  When he giggles, it's one of the best sounds on the planet.  He also sings to the dogs all the time now, and I'm pretty sure I've helped nurture that obnoxiousness.

I'm thrilled I've had this much time with my best friend.  We've had some bumps along the way, lost loved ones who shaped us, and have both been down at the same time a few times (the worst and sometimes later, funniest moments).  But man, we've had so many good moments, always, unanimously agreed on all the big things together, and have had a blast.  I hope we're always together, but even if something happens to one of us, these past 20 years have been the best years of my life.

We've had similar but unusual stories.  We've been the guardians to kids from each side of our families.  As adults we connected with siblings from both sides who we did not grow up with.  We each lost the glue that held our families together, and both times it was the first time and completely knocked us down.  We've renovated too many houses, sometimes together, sometimes together but silently seething.  We've learned any kind of remodel is hard, even if you're just swapping houses that are next door or across the street from each other.  We both have had the best people come and go in our lives, sometimes holding onto them for dear life, and sometimes letting go.  

I am thankful every day I wake up and he's still here and all mine.  And I know he feels the same way about me (he sings me songs too).

bun puns

Several years ago I started the journey to figure out what the heck was up with my GI issues.  I was embarrassed, impatient, and felt like surely I could fix it.  I should be able to fix it right?  Why couldn't I fix it?  I soon gave up.  

In 2021 I started having trouble with incontinence of varying kinds, and I admitted defeat.  I talked to my doctor and told her I was ready to get to the bottom of my GI issues once and for all (pun totally intended).  I spent the next four years doing lots of tests, various diets, pelvic floor therapy, and even counseling.  Apparently stress can kill you in different ways, including via your gut.  Who knew? 

Thankfully, at the beginning of the journey I was working from home due to the pandemic.  Things definitely got worse for a while as I went through the hoops.  As I transitioned back to working in-person I didn't bring up the utter hell my GI issues were giving me.  At that time I worked with super supportive people.  I was just incredibly embarrassed.  Incontinence is a pretty taboo thing to talk about.  In addition to that taboo problem, I was often experiencing extraordinary fatigue, bloating, and pain.  Weirdly enough, 2022-2023 were my two favorite years working at the library.  I think all the library happiness balanced out the tummy troubles and gave me something positive to focus on.  The library job and people I worked with (99.9% of them) for sure saved my butt (again, pun intended) during the time I needed it most.

The first GI doctor I had was excellent, but he had settled on this cycle of periodically wiping out the bacteria in my gut a couple times a year.  It was expensive and the symptoms always came back, sometimes in just a few weeks!  I've had a few colonoscopies over the past few years, and for a couple weeks after each of them, I felt the best I've ever felt.  I was so desperate for relief I even brought up the idea of doing a colonoscopy prep every so often!  

So then I asked my primary doctor if I could be referred to a different GI doctor, and she was 100% on board with it.  I immediately clicked with this new GI doctor, and he started me on a very rocky path to some relief.  He tried a few things, one of which was a medication that drastically improved my discomfort and pain, but the other symptoms were persistently hanging on.  As we all know one of those symptoms makes living a normal life very challenging.  This doctor didn't give up on me though.  He referred me to the Mayo clinic, and at the beginning of July I got the call to come on up.  

I have spent the majority of the summer figuring out my gut issues, and I feel like I have an excellent plan that I understand.  The first thing I had to do was put away my feelings about taking medication for possibly the rest of my life (even something small and harmless like the one I'm taking was tripping me up).  I really wanted the fix to be solely related to diet or something I could fix.  The second thing I had to do was be open to anything and surrender my embarrassment.  Lastly, it's a lot of hard work and I'm still trying to understand it all, but I feel like I have some hope for a future that doesn't involve always making sure there's a restroom nearby.  I am willing to put in the hard work and ask uncomfortable questions.

I have been reading this excellent book: The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control, and just this morning there was a passage I read that stood out:

"Embracing our common humanity is understanding that we all encounter pain, we all get lost, we all have drama in our family – we all have so much happening behind the scenes. The more you see your problems as uncommon, unrelatable, and unnatural, the closer you move towards self-pity, not self compassion." 

During this whole process I learned just how common my stomach issues are.  Unfortunately, I was totally mortified about them for such a long time, I made them 1000 times worse.  There are so many people with similar issues, there are two floors devoted to them at the Mayo in Rochester!  If anyone reading this or anyone you know has chronic constipation/diarrhea (or both!), it is not normal or ok.  Ask for help!

There's a lot of hard work ahead, but I'm ever so grateful for the help and also for Robert taking off the time to be with me for all the weird, exhausting, hopeful, gross, powerful, life-changing stuff I've been a part of this summer.  I'm also grateful that my gut issues are not life-threatening.  We have officially knocked out all the super serious things, and the relief I feel about that is immense.

Such a serious post, I think it's time for a few pictures.  All appropriate, only some poo!

Rochester has this incredibly long pedestrian bridge on the Douglas Trail.  Robert and I walked the lake loop to access it, and then he walked back to the car while I explored the bridge.  Robert said to call him when I reached the end of it, and he would come pick me up.  

Well I never found the end because the darn thing led to a brewery - Little Thistle.  There may not be pots of gold at the end of every rainbow, but apparently there's at least one brewery at the end of a trail (at least that's where the trail ended for me).  I'm pretty much ruined now.  When I called Robert he was not at all surprised by my find.  

Speaking of being completely ruined - when I popped into the main Rochester library and asked for a library card for my collection, the person working there librarian gave me not only the current colors, they also went into the back for a couple old ones lying around.  

Books like this were everywhere, including this board book.  Rochester definitely had the most positive poop culture I've ever been a part of.

We had Chinese one night.  I don't remember the food, but I did keep this.  How many mighty forces have been there for me?  Too many to count.  

Speaking of food, we did find the best places, because that's what we do!

Brussels Sprouts from First Meeting Noodle in Rochester:

Borscht (the best I've ever had) from Kramarczuk's Sausage Co. in Minneapolis, MN:

The Mayo Clinic is connected to many shops and restaurants in a crazy indoor maze.  Someone mentioned that they moved there in the winter and only spent a few minutes outside.  She was able to walk mostly from her home to her job at the Mayo clinic without venturing outside!  We did a lot of walking while we waited for appointments.  The best place to eat was Saladworks, which was a build your own salad place with roasted vegetable options.

This coffee place, Qamaria, had something called pistachio sauce.  Here's the difference between pistachio syrup and sauce.  It's very simple.  If it's sauce, you will want to bathe in it.  It was an otherworldly experience.  Each sip you decide if you want straight up latte or latte after you drag your straw through the sauce.  Basically, it's the best drink on the planet.

When we traveled to Des Moines for vacation in June we didn't find any restaurants we would visit again.  Naturally, just passing through Des Moines we found a stellar place - Centro.  They had a vegan tofu gnocchi with broccoli pesto and a salad with a pile of fresh tomatoes.  Robert thought my pasta was slightly better than his!

We had one weekend to fiddle fart around, and we stopped by an amazing craft recycling place, ArtStart and one of the best bookstores I've ever been to, Against the Current, both in St. Paul.  I kept picking up one treasure after another.  ArtStart sold their papers by the inch!

We got back just this past Thursday, and the dogs were both overjoyed and exhausted.  I immediately took Margo into work on Friday in the hopes she would forgive me for keeping her from J and her customers.  This weekend has been a lot of catchup, relaxation, and tennis.  

Tennis has been brutal this summer with the crazy humidity.  My average heart rate when I play is usually 140s-150s.  With the humidity the average has been near-death - 💀.  But it's the best place to lay down all my burdens (or smack the shit out of them).

I am ready to dive into my last semester of school, do all the hard work to get my gut all spruced up and happy (and not tear myself down if I make a mistake), and really soak up all the joy of my job, art, family, and the pauses when I write it all down.

Wild

When I chose the colors for this piece, I wasn't entirely sure how they would react with each other.  I thought the red would pop, the multicolored threads would unite, and the blue would be that subtle thing that creeps in and stays longer than the rest of the colors.  What I didn't expect was for the multicolor threads to throw a party and the red to be all like "hey I'm here for it, for all of it!"